Selasa, 14 Juli 2009
Ada kedamaian jauh yang melampui kebahagiaan dan ketidakbahagiaan.
Jumat, 19 Juni 2009
SECRET OF PUBLIC SPEAKING
Record the speech from the speaker unless you have photographic memory .
3 starting question
1.What did the speaker did well or badly?
2.How can I apply the good points into my speech
3.How can I avoid making the same mistakes that speaker made?
You will find welcoming ALL speakers even the extremely boring ones coz there always be sth to learn
Believe it,the world is your classroom,speakers are everywhere,reporter,lecturer,classmate,supervisor,trainer,door salesman,etc
Remember to jotdown
Speaking secret
1.Evaluate all speakers,Simon cowell style
2.Attract mentor to assist you
3.Be coachable
4.Speak from the heart
5.Lots and Lots of stage time practice it
6.Inside out understanding
You have to have vivid imagination
7.Set yourself up to succeed
-start by taking small steps
Yes. Stop trying to speak like Abraham Lincoln or Winston Churchill.
There is a reason why they are legendary. Instead pick someone your own
caliber first. Say your school lecturer or your favourite speaker! If you can be half as
boring as him or her at your first speech, consider that a big success. Go
out and celebrate! Always give yourself a chance to win, no matter how
small the win is. It is much easier to move forward that way. And in no
time, you will find yourself joining the ranks of highly competent
-find a group of audience that loves you from the start(little puppy,wife,buddy)speak to them
-Start by focusing on your strength
Kalo lu jayus atau lucu,find a way to be a funnier speaker,every speaker is unique.mungkin senyum lu lebai.hehe.it is painless if u focus on your strength
8.Have loads of fun
-fun is the best cure against your arch nemesis:fear
It is like a shiny amour that deflects any worries, doubts and
apprehension that you may have. It blesses you with courage to step out
of your comfort zone and try new things. It grants you freedom to be
creative. It bestows you with immunity against failure.
It gives you permission to laugh at yourself. When fun is in the picture,
nothing will be too daunting for you.
-fun sustains you
When you are having fun, you have essentially open up boundless of pure
energy that pushes you towards success. There is no work involved when
it comes to honing your public speaking skills. It is part of the fun! Any
challenges you faced become part of the game. Instead of mulling over
how tough it is, you find yourself inventing new ways to defeat these
challenges. In fact, the harder the better. Some people call that optimism.
To you, it is all part of the game!
-fun brings out the best in you,treat it like a game and play your heart out.
Having fun also allows you to walk the path of least resistance. As such
your energies are spent exploring new ground and discovering new things
about yourself. You do not care if you succeed or fail. It releases you
from the pressure of having to win. What you are more concerned about
is that you are enjoying every part of it. As long as you are moving
forward with each step that you take, nothing else matters.
Ironically, such attitude creates the most results. Take a look at Dr
Richard Feynman. He won a Nobel prize out of calculating the
relationship between the wobble and the rotation of the plate for fun. His
"play" attitude led him to stumble onto quantum electrodynamics! And
then there was Einstein, Newton and all other famous scientists.
The same happens when you are on stage too! When you are having fun
on stage, it creates instant connection with your audience. Fun is
infectious and your audience cannot help but have fun too.
Here's one way you can start having fun with public speaking - Treat It
Like A Game!
Here's what I want myself to do for my next speech. Set up some winning
criteria i.e. what do i need to do to "win the game". It could come in
the form of "My audience will give me a smiley face sticker at the end of
my speech" or "I will try something new each time I speak". Pull in a few
friends to play the game with you. They could either compete with you or
even play judges. And what's a game without rewards?
Make sure you plan some enticing rewards for yourself. Invite your
friends to pool in some of the prizes too! Increase the stake. And then
focus on winning the game! What's there to lose?
Notice the adrenalin rush?
Notice the excitement building up?
Notice that you aren't even concerned about your fears?
That's what I am talking about. Treat public speaking as a game. Be
spontaneous. Be adventurous. Most importantly, have fun with it!
The next time you have to give a speech, let your hair out and have fun!
Be wild and experiment new things. Even if it flops, you had fun trying
it! I shall go against the usual advices that you hear from speech experts.
Do NOT take your speech (or yourself) too seriously. Treat it as a game
and play your heart out!
"Man is most nearly himself when he achieves the seriousness of a child
at play." – Heraclitus, Greek Philosopher (535 - 475 BCE)
Minggu, 14 Juni 2009
bis
Ada sekelompok orang yang pergi berdarmawisata. Mereka naik bis dan melewati jalan2 pegunungan yang sangat indah: ada danau, ada sungai, ada burung2, ada bunga, ada sapi, ada hijaunya rumput, ada kuningnya padi, dan ada kupu kupu berterbangan. Sayangnya bis itu tertutup semua jendelanya dengan korden kain gelap, sehigga apapun tidak terlihat. Semua orang mengharap bisa sampai tempat tujuan supaya bisa menikmati pemandangan disana. Mereka tidak tahu bahwa hanya dengan membuka kain gorden, mereka bisa menikmati keindahan yang ada sekarang.
Kita tertawa melihat ketololan orang pada parabel diatas, sementara kitapun sering lupa membuka kain korden kehidupan kita. Otak tertuju pada tujuan nanti waktu naik pangkat, dapat uang, atau suksesnya proyek, dan tidak mau membuka mata hati kita dan menikmati bunga, sawah, pelangi, dan kupu2 disekeliling kita. Selamat membuka penutup hati. Salam.
Sabtu, 13 Juni 2009
BOOST Your Idea,aha..WOW..
Science: Otak kiri kita, haruslah diisi dengan startegi komunikasi yang berlandaskan hasil riset dan pendekatan akademis yang sudah terbukti nyata.
Art: Otak kanan para sammies mendekatkan keilmuan pada nilai kreatifitas seni yang menghasilkan inovasi dalam semua karya.
Craft: Keahlian yang merupakan pengalaman berkarya terbaik yang menjadi sebuah kebiasaan dalam menghasilkan komunikasi yang efektip.
Soul: Jiwa yang mebuahkan karya2 yang menyentuh emosi dan sisi humanisme kita. Jiwalah yang mengikat ketiga elemen lain dalam menghasilkan karya indah yang tepat guna.
Sebuah riset menarik menyatakan bahwa anak kecil dan bayi tertawa setiap harinya secara rata-rata sebanyak 300 kali. Tetapi orang dewasa - yang berumur 30, 40, 50 tahun - secara rata-rata hanya tertawa 15 kali sehari. Jadi kita mengalami penurunan dari bayi yang 300 kali menjadi 15 kali sehari dalam perjalan hidup kita. Ada apa dengan kehidupan kita ?
Kalau kita renungkan ternyata ada perubahan menyolok yang berbeda sejak dari masa kanak-kanak kita. Kreativitas dan keberanian berpikir di luar kotak, kebiasaan dan kemauan untuk bergembira, rasa ingin tahu yang besar, selalu mempertanyakan apa saja di dalam hidup kita, perlahan-lahan mulai pudar dalam diri kita. Karena tekanan dan lingkungan dan kebiasaan hidup.
Kita telah kehilangan kemampuan kita untuk hidup sehat karena kita kehilangan kemampuan tertawa. Dan terlalu banyaknya kesedihan, kemurungan, kekecewaan dalam hidup kita.
Ada hal menarik, kalau anda lihat ada 5 orang di ujung sana, yang 4 orang tertawa dan 1 yang menangis, siapa yang akan anda perhatikan ? Ternyata orang yang menangislah yang akan anda perhatikan.
Koran, dan telivisi lebih suka mengabarkan tentang penembakan, kebakaran, pembunuhan, dari pada orang yang bergembira, karena kegembiraan tidak mudah dijual. Berita yang menakutkan menyedihkan membawa kita lebih banyak lagi dalam emosi negatip.
Ada riset orang sakit terminal (akan meninggal dalam waktu pendek), dan dari 40 orang, yang 20 setiap hari disuruh menonton Filem dan TV yang lucu2 minimal 2 jam sehari, sedangkan 20 yang lain biasa saja. Semua diberi obat dan terapi yang sama. Hasilnya menakjubkan, mereka yang tertawa setiap hari ternyata hidupnya jauh lebih panjang daripada yang tidak diberi terapi tertawa.
Tertawa juga melepaskan ensim dan hormon yang berguna untuk kesehatan tubuh, menekan hormon2 jelek, dan melatih otot yang berguna untuk kesehatan. Tertawa juga membawa dampak positip pada pergaulan, membuat orang menyukai anda, dan membawa kesan positip pada gurat muka anda.
Maka belajarlah menjadi seperti kanak-kanak lagi. Supaya kita berani untuk tertawa terpingkal-pingkal terhadap hal yang lucu ataupun sedikit lucu saja. Ini akan berguna untuk anda sendiri. Salam Tertawa.
Tanadi Santoso
www.tanadisantoso.com